A New England summer is many things - busy, humid, and usually spent at one of the hundreds of beaches dotting the east coast. For children, the summer offers an exciting opportunity for fun activities and lasting memories, but experts warn that the season’s loss of structure can threaten their development and overall wellbeing.
For many students, summer means late nights with friends, ice cream, and a rediscovered sense of freedom - drastically altering their everyday lives. While a break from the school-year schedule is healthy and important, completely abandoning routines can sometimes lead to unexpected challenges for both children and parents.
The Value of Structure in Abstract Time
At Boys Town New England, we often remind families that children thrive when they know what to expect. Even during the summer, simple routines can help support emotional well-being, healthy behavior and a smoother transition back to school.
According to Boys Town New England Executive Director Marcy Shyllon, “Summer does not need to be rigid, but children do best when there is still some rhythm to their day. Predictability helps children feel secure. When routines disappear completely, parents often start to see more irritability, more power struggles and more difficulty getting kids back on track.”
When routines disappear completely, parents may notice:
- Increased irritability
- Escalated conflicts
- Difficulty falling and remaining asleep
- Reliance on screentime
- Challenges returning to regimented routines
Sleep however, continues to stand as the foundation of a healthy lifestyle.
The Benefits of Routine During Summer
Experts from Boys Town New England offer five suggestions to keep children grounded this summer.
1. Maintain Flexible but Consistent Sleep Schedules
While a child’s sleep schedule may shift from spring to summer, sustaining a stable bedtime can reduce changes in behavior and mood the following day.
2. Establish a Daily Rhythm
A daily rhythm helps kids and teens feel refreshed during abstract time rather than untethered and lost. Something as simple as a sit-down breakfast or a story before bed can supplant structured stimulation.
3. Set Screen Time Expectations Early
Modern parenting demands the acknowledgement of screen time, but clear expectations are encouraged as the summer begins. Outside time, chores, and family commitments must be prioritized and reinforced.
4. Prioritize Family Time
Summer also offers ample opportunity to connect as a family during scheduled activities and regular occurrences (meals, vacations, activities)
5. Encourage Responsibility & Participation
The summer can be a great time to incrementally infuse kids with responsibilities around the house, proving their capability and teaching new skills - whether walking the dog or washing the dishes.
Finding Balance This Summer
Children don’t need every minute planned. They do, however, benefit from routines that support healthy sleep, family connection and emotional regulation.
At Boys Town New England, we encourage families to embrace the flexibility of summer while maintaining enough structure to help children feel secure, supported and prepared for whatever comes next.