National Grief Awareness Day takes place each year on August 30 and reminds us that feelings of loss manifest in many forms. Children often deal with deep feelings of grief after losing a loved one or experiencing a significant life change but don’t always have the words to express them. These feelings can lead to emotional distress and behavioral changes that affect their daily lives.
To honor National Grief Awareness Day, Boys Town New England encourages parents to look for indicators that a child is grieving. Whether dealing with a death in the family, friendship changes, or anything that disrupts their sense of stability, parents and guardians can cultivate a safe space for kids to feel and express their emotions.
“Children do not only grieve people. They also grieve relationships, routines, places and the life they knew before a major change,” said Marcy Shyllon, Executive Director of Boys Town New England. “Because children may not have the words to describe those emotions, grief often shows up through their behavior.”
Recognizing Feelings of Grief in Children
During periods of grief and in daily life, parents should look out for:
- Emotional instability
- Withdrawal from friends and family
- Trouble getting to or staying asleep
- Changes in school performance
- Increased anxiety or clinginess
- Headaches, stomachaches and other physical complaints
Helping Children Navigate Grief
Parents should take steps to support their children when they are experiencing grief and loss, focusing on active listening and maintaining daily structure.
As Shyllon says, “Providing consistency, listening and reminding children they are supported can help them feel safe as they adjust to change.”
Parents and caregivers should:
1. Listen First, Advise Second
Give kids the space to freely express their feelings before rushing to advise them on solutions.
2. Reinforce Structure
Maintain their daily routines during the summer and school year, prioritizing consistent bedtimes and wake-up times.
3. Provide Outlets for Expression
Encourage kids to play, draw, make music and express their emotions in healthy and constructive ways.
4. Recognize that Grief Is a Journey
Try to be patient with children as they navigate the complicated spectrum of grief, supporting them equally through periods of sadness and joy.
5. Seek Professional Help if Necessary
Don’t hesitate to seek outside help and additional resources if issues persist or more serious behaviors arise.
Supporting Children Through Loss
Grief does not follow a straight path, and children may experience a range of emotions as they adjust to a loss or major change. Parents do not need to have all the answers or find the perfect words.
By listening, maintaining consistency and reminding children that they are supported, parents and caregivers can help children feel safe as they navigate difficult times. Recognizing the signs of grief and creating a supportive environment can help children work through loss in a healthy way while giving families the tools they need to move forward together.