How to Fight Back-to-School Anxiety
For many families, the back-to-school season means shopping for supplies, adjusting schedules, and getting ready for a new school year. While those preparations are important, they aren't the only changes children are experiencing. For kids, returning to the classroom also presents challenges to their routine and emotional state.
Whether it's meeting a new teacher, making friends, or adjusting to a different routine, the transition back to school can be intimidating. Parents and guardians are encouraged to take the weeks leading up to the first day to prepare their children to help them feel confident and supported.
"Back-to-school anxiety doesn't always look like a child saying, 'I'm nervous,'" said Marcy Shyllon, Director of Boys Town New England. "It may look like irritability, stomachaches, trouble sleeping, avoiding conversations about school, or suddenly needing more reassurance from a parent. Those can all be signs a child is carrying more stress than they know how to explain."
Recognizing Back-to-School Stress
Feeling nervous before a new school year is normal. New classrooms, unfamiliar teachers, changing friendships, and academic expectations can all create anxiety for children and teens.
Parents don't need to solve every worry their child has but should create opportunities for children to talk openly about what they're feeling and prepare them for the road ahead.
Six Ways to Help Kids Feel Ready for School
1. Ease Back Into the School Routine
Start adjusting bedtime and wake-up times a week or two before school begins. A consistent sleep schedule helps children feel more rested, focused, and prepared for the first day.
2. Ask Specific Questions
Instead of asking, "Are you excited for school?" ask what they're most looking forward to or what they're worried about. Listening first can help children feel heard and understood.
3. Practice the Morning Routine
A practice run before school starts can make the first day feel more familiar. Walking through getting dressed, packing backpacks, and leaving the house helps reduce uncertainty.
4. Make the New School Year Feel Familiar
If possible, visit the school, walk the hallways, or review class schedules together. Even small moments of familiarity can build confidence before the first day.
5. Create a Plan for Stressful Moments
Talk with your child about what they can do if they feel overwhelmed at school, such as taking a few deep breaths or reaching out to a trusted teacher, counselor, or other adult.
6. Keep Communication Open
The first day of school isn't the end of the conversation. Continue asking how your child is doing throughout the first few weeks and watch for signs they may need extra support.
Starting the School Year Off Right
The start of a new school year brings change, and with change often comes uncertainty. While some nervousness is expected, preparing children ahead of time can make the transition feel more manageable.
By establishing routines, encouraging open conversations, and checking in regularly, parents can help children begin the school year feeling supported, confident, and ready to learn.