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How Families Can Help Children Build Healthy Habits Without Focusing on Weight


September is National Childhood Obesity Awareness Month, an opportunity for families to think about children’s health beyond the number on the scale. While weight can be one part of a child’s overall health, there are many other factors that can affect a child’s well-being.

Obesity is a complex medical condition influenced by a variety of factors, including genetics, eating patterns, physical activity, sleep, stress, screen time and access to healthy food. For children and families, navigating these factors can be difficult. Focusing on sustainable habits and overall health can help families make positive changes without creating shame around food or body size.

“Children should never feel that their value is determined by a number on the scale,” said Marcy Shyllon, Executive Director of Boys Town New England. “Families can make meaningful changes by focusing on nourishment, energy and healthy routines rather than restrictive diets or appearance.”

Building Healthier Habits as a Family

Parents and caregivers can help children build healthy habits by making small changes together.

1. Make It a Family Goal

Make changes as a family instead of singling out one child. Try planning active family time or serving balanced meals.

2. Keep Food Neutral

Skip the “good” and “bad” labels. Food shouldn’t be used as a reward or punishment.

3. Find Exercise They Enjoy

Movement shouldn’t feel like punishment. Let kids choose activities they enjoy, like walking, biking, dancing or playing outside.

4. Prioritize Sleep

Good sleep supports energy, mood and appetite. Keep a consistent sleep routine whenever possible.

5. Set Screen-Time Limits

Less screen time can mean more time for sleep, movement and family connection.

6. Avoid Negative Body Talk

Be mindful of how you talk about bodies and food around children, including how you talk about your own appearance.

Focus on Health, Not the Scale

Parents and caregivers who have concerns about a child’s growth or weight should talk with a healthcare professional rather than starting a restrictive diet on their own. A pediatrician or registered dietitian can look at a child’s growth pattern, overall health, family history and individual nutritional needs to determine the best approach.

National Childhood Obesity Awareness Month is a good reminder that supporting a child’s health isn’t about reaching a certain number on the scale. By making healthy changes together and keeping conversations around food and bodies positive, families can help children develop healthy habits and a positive relationship with food, movement and their bodies.