Back-to-school season is in full swing. As parents shop for clothes, stock up on school supplies, and double-check classroom lists, it's easy to focus on everything children need to carry into school. But one of the most important things they can bring on the first day can't fit inside a backpack: confidence.
Boys Town New England encourages parents and guardians to take time to check in with their children and understand how they're feeling before the busy school year begins.
"The start of a new school year brings a lot of change," said Marcy Shyllon, Director of Boys Town New England. "Even children who are excited to go back to school may also feel nervous. That's completely normal, and it's an opportunity for parents to help build confidence instead of trying to eliminate every worry."
Recognizing the Signs of Back-to-School Anxiety
A new school year brings exciting opportunities, but it can also create uncertainty for children of all ages. A new teacher, unfamiliar classmates, changing friendships, and added responsibilities can all contribute to feelings of anxiety.
Children don't always express those feelings with words. In the weeks leading up to the first day of school, parents should watch for signs like:
- Stomachaches
- Irritability
- Clinginess
- Complaining
According to Shyllon, “Those behaviors are often an invitation to start a conversation.” Parents and guardians are encouraged to listen without judgment, reassure children that their feelings are normal, and help build confidence before the first day of classes.
Six Steps to Build Back-to-School Confidence Before the Big Day
1. Address the Problem Early
Start talking about the upcoming school year at least a week before classes begin and make it a regular topic of conversation.
2. Keep an Open Dialogue
Ask open-ended questions about what your child is looking forward to and what might be making them nervous.
3. Support All Emotions
Let children know it's okay to feel both excited and nervous about returning to school. Acknowledging those emotions helps them feel understood.
4. Prioritize Problem-Solving
Help children work through challenges instead of immediately solving every concern for them. This builds confidence, independence, and resilience.
5. Bring Up Past Successes
Remind children of challenges they've overcome in the past. Looking back on previous successes can help them feel more confident facing new situations.
6. Don't Fear Outside Assistance
If anxiety begins interfering with daily life or continues well after school starts, consider reaching out to a mental health professional for additional support.
Building Confidence One Conversation at a Time
The first day of school doesn't have to be free of nerves. Feeling a little anxious about something new is completely normal. By encouraging open conversations, validating children's feelings, and helping them develop the confidence to face challenges, parents can prepare them for much more than a successful first day— they can help lay the foundation for a successful school year.