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When going through a divorce, is it good to be strong or should you share your emotions with your children?

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When going through a divorce, is it good to be strong or should you share your emotions with your children?

When adults are going through a divorce, they're going to experience a lot of emotion, and sharing that with your children might be a natural thing to do, but I would caution that too much of anything can be a problem.

It's okay to say, "I feel very sad today. Mommy feels sad today," and that's all right. But it might begin to be more of an issue if every day mommy feels sad and that child has to take on some responsibility for that adult.

Parents should understand they're going to go through a grieving process. And it would be unrealistic to say, "I'm okay. Nothing's happening here. Don't look at me." The kids won't feel safe. But if you say, "I'm not feeling as happy as I'd like to be today, but I'm going to do better and its okay." And it's all right to cry so the kids feel like it's okay to cry. But when you say you don’t have any emotions, I believe that is a message that could be more of a problem than help to your kids.

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