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How do I build a relationship with my child’s coach?

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How do I build a relationship with my child’s coach?

Well, you know, I get this question a lot. "How do I deal with my child's coach?" And I don't know if you really need to build a relationship with the coach, but I think the most important thing to understand as a parent is that coaches have a job to do. The best thing that we can do, for both our child and the team, is to step back and support the coach. That's what we need to do. One of the big tips that I have is just tell the coach thanks now and then when you see him. Or have your child, maybe practice that ahead of time. Say, "Hey, after practice, won't you go see the coach and just tell them thanks?" And that's it. You don't need anything else. Sometimes that's very beneficial.

The other thing that I encourage parents to is to, if you have a problem with the coach, make sure that you don't talk negatively about that coach or the circumstances around your child. We call that "disagreeing appropriately". It means that we have to set up a time with that coach, an appropriate time, not after an athletic contest immediately when emotions tend to run high, but set up a time away from the sports venue to talk to that coach about the circumstances. And if it's age-appropriate, practice with your child to have them go in and have that same conversation with the coach, because that's an important skill for a child to learn is how to interact when things don't go their way and to information seek from the coach of why they maybe aren't playing as much as they want, or whatever the circumstance may be.