We're glad you contacted us with your parenting concern. Being a parent is never easy especially to very active little boys.
Using consequences and rewards is a great motivation system when trying to change behaviors. However, it's not a cookie-cutter approach. Since every child is different, you might need to modify your consequences and rewards to fit your son’s changing interests. What worked for him last month may no longer interest him this month.
When thinking about consequences, remember these three things: size, relativity and immediacy. How big is the behavior you are trying to correct? If it's a very big concern to you, then there should be a large consequence. The consequence should be related to the behavior and be issued as immediately as possible. When choosing rewards for positive behaviors, let your son have a say.
It's good that you make him clean up his messes because accountability is important. For every time you give in, it takes 10 more times to stand your ground. So, remember to stay consistent and provide lots of structure. Especially with kindergarten around the corner, your son needs to be prepared for rules and routines. We hope this helps and please let us know if you have any questions or concerns.
