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Getting Your Grandkids to Say �Yes� to Hearing �No�

Kids don�t like to be told �no,� especially when they�ve got their heart set on doing something or getting something they want.

But accepting �no� for an answer is a basic skill every child must learn. The steps to the skill are:

  • Look at the person who is telling you �no.�
  • Say �okay.�
  • Stay calm.
  • If you disagree or want to know why, ask later.

Here are some tips for making your teaching of this skill to your grandchild even more effective:

  • Always try to give genuine verbal praise to your grandchildren whenever they accept �no� for an answer or when they disagree appropriately.
  • If your grandchildren will not take �no� for an answer, and you reward them by �giving in,� they will learn that �no� doesn�t mean �no� � it just means �keep trying!�
  • When giving a child a reason for saying �no,� be concise and to the point. A long, drawn-out explanation is neither necessary nor productive. You can always explain your reasons later, when your grandchild is calm.
  • When your grandchild disagrees with you appropriately, reward the behavior by actively listening to what he or she is telling you.
  • You also should set rules and boundaries for grandchildren, establish reasonable consequences when they are violated, and follow through with the consequences you have set.